No Goodbyes: Barry Eaton on overcoming our fear of death

I have long been a fan of the wisdom of Barry Eaton, one of Australia's most acclaimed (though low-key) psychic intuitives and the author of two exceptional books, Afterlife (which has been released in America by Tarcher) and No Goodbyes.

As well as reading his exceptional books I have been to hear him speak and have taken careful notes on what he says. Barry is a wonderful speaker, as you would expect from someone who was once an ABC television journalist, a radio DJ and these days the producer and presenter of a wonderfully kooky on-line radio show called Radio Out There (hear me on a recent episode here).

Barry says he writes from a truly inspired perspective - that is the words are coming into him directly from spirit. He is in touch with a number of spirit guides who exist on another, non-material, plane, and it is their wisdom he imparts in his writing. The main message they want to get across to this world, and the reason why they press Barry so much to write, is that they want us all to realise that we have nothing to fear when it comes to death. We are all eternal spiritual beings, and this short life on earth is another run-through in a never-ending cycle of births.

Walter Mason and Barry Eaton

 So please see below my own interpretation of Barry's wisdom, gleaned from his books and talks, about how we can overcome our fear of death:

1. Know that wherever we are we are surrounded by souls - at his talk at Heavenly Energies in Willoughby (an exquisite place, btw) Barry reminded the audience that we were surrounded by souls and that we always are. This should be a great comfort. American psychic Sonia Choquette says that at all times we have access to no less than 32 different spirit guides, all of them willing and waiting to help us. They represent the place we come from and to where we will ultimately return.

2. Before retiring at night, ask yourself the questions that you need answers to - sleep is a return to a semblance of our spiritual existence, and if we bring our problems and issues into our sleep states we can often be rewarded with answers that come in the form of vivid dreams or clear realisations soon after wakening. Learn to sleep on it.

4. Develop your soul - read books, pray and meditate, go to classes, lectures and workshops. Actively endeavour to develop your spiritual understanding in whatever way feels right for you and always be learning. In doing this we fulfil our purpose for this earthly existence. We are all here to develop and to learn new lessons. Don't neglect this precious opportunity.

5. Contemplate the ocean - for Barry the ocean emerged as the ultimate metaphor for existence. God, he realised, is not an old guy in the sky, but a vast, rolling ocean of consciousness of which each of us is a tiny drop. Watch the ocean and consider its immensity. And know that you are an intrinsic part of it. This fits in perfectly with something I read recently by Henriette Klauser in Write it Down, Make it Happen - one of my favourite books. The ocean, she says, is the perfect partner in our creative endeavours. It calms us, inspires us and lulls us into optimal creative states.

6. Get Quiet - I am always shocked by how many people say they have no idea what their life purpose is. This, says Barry, is because we cultivate the quiet and committ to spending time with ourselves. By meditating and learning to be comfortable in our own skins we open ourselves up to the messages from our souls as to our real purpose in this existence. Barry recommends Australian meditation teacher Paul Wilson's book The Quiet. Ken Mcleod, writing in Tricycle magazine in 2010, speaks so beautifully of how alien the habit of silence is to us: "Space surrounded and permeated my experience, but I had been unable to relate to it. I had been completely caught up in trying to control my experience."

7. Resolve the big issues on your life now - Barry says that souls return to Earth again and again, always learning and developing but frequently avoiding the really big lessons that sent us here in the first place. I think you probably know what the really big issue is in your life, the one that keeps popping up again and again, that keeps dragging you back to unhappiness. Stop pushing it under the carpet. Face it head on and see what you can do to change or improve it. Don't waste another life.

8. Take responsibility - there is no magic pill that will resolve all the problems in this existence. And there is a limit to how much we can blame others, no matter how cruel the circumstances into which we were born. Ultimately the only way out is to take responsibility for our own journey.

You really should grab copies of Barry's two books Afterlife and No Goodbyes.


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